About Me

Veteran. Survivor. Strategist. Space Holder.

I’m Shameka Allen, a Navy veteran, former military spouse, survivor of domestic violence, and the heart behind The Relationship Plug. I wear many titles, but they all lead back to one calling: helping people heal, reconnect, and rebuild after trauma, transition, and heartbreak.

After surviving the silent battles of military life, from abusive relationships to the isolating weight of disability and transition, I knew I wasn’t the only one carrying invisible wounds. So I created the space I once needed: a safe, real, and judgment-free zone where pain is honored, truth is spoken, and healing begins.

Why I Teach Partnership

I’ve spent years witnessing the gap between love and partnership — the difference between emotional connection and functional collaboration. Through my work as The Relationship Plug, I’ve supported countless people navigating the complexities of modern relationships. Along the way, I realized that love alone is not enough; what we need is the skill of partnership.

I bring my own lived experience into this work. I’ve navigated relationships, leadership, and personal growth, learning firsthand the challenges of balancing connection with shared responsibility. These experiences inspired me to create a framework that teaches partnership as a conscious, learnable skill and not just something we hope for or assume will happen naturally.

Today, I teach people how to build partnerships that last. My approach is grounded in relational literacy, communication clarity, and intentional collaboration. I help people examine inherited patterns, design agreements that work for them, and cultivate shared responsibility without sacrificing intimacy, love, or individuality.

I am committed to education that empowers, not fixes. I teach frameworks that are inclusive, evidence-informed, and applicable to real life. This is for anyone ready to shift from surviving relationships to building them with clarity, care, and intention.

This isn’t just teaching. This is heart work. This is life work. This is love, reimagined.